Game Day, or “How I Became That Mother.”

My little man is getting so big. He learned to ride a bike without training wheels, he has loose teeth ready to fall out, and Sunday, he had his first baseball game. I have turned into a Soccer mom, chauffeuring kids to school, and bus stop, and baseball practice, soccer practice, and ballet. I have somehow become a person who attends a kids’ baseball game, a soccer game, and a soccer clinic every weekend in the fall. I have an actual magnetic soccer ball on my minivan. I have a minivan! I know where to buy ballet shoes, for fuck’s sake! I don’t even know who I am anymore.

I always said, “Oh, I’ll never be one of those parents who [insert crossed-that-line-already variable here].” I am one of those parents. Soccer ball. Minivan. Little girl who wears dresses, owns Barbies. Too much tv. Chicken McNugget. Name a line that I drew in the sand; I have since crossed it. Oh, except Bratz. NEVER IN MY HOUSE. EVER.

The funny thing, though? You realize that parents don’t do these things because they want them, necessarily. (Although I am sure some do.) They often do it because they realize it is what the kids want. My kids like to play baseball and soccer and do ballet. It is good for them to run around. They like Barbie and Hot Wheels. Tiller likes dresses and bows. Rollie got excited about putting the magnetic soccer ball his coach gave him onto the van. I couldn’t say no to that! I countered it with a Mac sticker.

And in participating in all that (and I have never been a joiner – I do not tend to like to be part of a group), i have found that it is not so bad. It is kind of fun to watch your kid on a baseball field, having fun. You remember what it was like to stand in left field or right field, bored out of your mind, dancing in the wet grass, or kicking some dirt at third base. Watching your daughter meet other kids during the game and run around and climb trees, or play in the creek behind the field, or swing from the bleachers, you remember that once upon a time, you were that kid keeping yourself occupied while a sibling was on the field. You check out the goods at the Concession stand. You remember that after the game, whether you win or lose, you get pizza or ice cream.

  4 comments for “Game Day, or “How I Became That Mother.”

  1. Deb
    September 15, 2009 at 9:33 am

    Where does one buy ballet shoes. There are no organized sports in our family, nor a minivan (NEVER!) but there is ballet.

  2. September 15, 2009 at 10:07 am

    Ballet – Neighbors with older kids first, then consignment, then Payless. Except if your kid goes to one of those frou-frou expensive ballet places where they need special shoes, in which case you are on your own.

    I actually really like my minivan functionally. Just not crazy about the image. People call you ma’am when you drive a minivan.

  3. Nikki
    September 19, 2009 at 11:25 am

    I’m so right there with you, Anne. I look at some of these moms at soccer/ballet/pick-up/drop-off and think I am not like them. I can’t be because I’m not old enough. But I’ve noticed that a lot of parents at Piper’s new school have tattoos and piercings. This comforts me – probably more than it should.

  4. September 20, 2009 at 11:25 am

    We have tattooed and pierced moms these days, too. It is interesting. Our n’hood is pretty diverse, which I like. You will get a punk rock mom, sitting next to a more traditional mom, next to the grandma raising the kid, next to the Stay at home Dad, next to the Muslim mom. I like that.

    But yeah, sometimes I think, “I don’t look that old, do I?” Then i realize. I look that old.

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