This one was lost in the shuffle of my trip to Orlando. It happened a few weeks ago.
Todd helped me dye my hair and took his wedding ring off to do it. He set the ring on the counter, then helped me with the hair, then put the ring back on. Or so he thought.
After going to the hardware store, then coming home and putting pine straw out over the entire area of beds in our yard, he came inside and realized he was not wearing his ring. He sheepishly informed me. I think he thought I was angry that he lost the ring, but I wasn’t. As the day went on, we turned the house upside down looking for the ring, and I became more and more aware that I was a little upset that he had lost the ring. Not upset with him, but upset that it was gone. Sure, we could replace it, but it wouldn’t be the same ring that he had slipped on my finger that April day back in 2001, as I giggled and cried and he sweat nervously. It would have to be newly-engraved with our mysterious code word and the date. It just wouldn’t be the same.
We looked on the floor of the bathroom. We looked in the drain. We looked in the bathtub, the trash cans. We looked on the floors upstairs. We gave Rollie the Spanish Inquisition, and still i think he had no clue what a wedding ring even is. I even kept an eye on Tiller’s poop for a couple days. We walked the yard, and looked in the cars. We pretty much gave up. Oh, well. C’est la vie. It is only a ring. It is replaceable, and it isn’t platinum, just white gold.
Todd had decided that it was lost while he was putting out the pine straw. Talk about the proverbial needle in a haystack. He had traversed every square inch of the beds putting out the straw, so it could be anywhere. On the off chance that someone had one, he posted on the East Atlanta community board to see if anyone had a metal detector. As if.
Sure enough, there was a guy who owned one in the Village. Seems that he asked for it for Christmas so that he could search for civil war artifacts in his yard. (The Battle of Atlanta took place right here in East Atlanta. People find bullets and the like all the time here.) So, this nice guy agreed to come out and help us look for the ring. He took the time out of his Saturday to help strangers find a wedding band. Pretty nice.
The guy showed up, he showed Todd how to work the metal detector, and Todd started scanning the beds, while me and the guy chatted. Turns out he’s a Cartographer – never met a Cartographer, and it sounds really archaic, but was actually really interesting to talk about.
He was here for a good thirty minutes. Todd finished two the beds and was about halfway through the third one. I had given up hope, but was appreciative of the guy coming out to help, and of Todd for giving it the old college try in finding the ring, even though there was a snowball’s chance in hell of finding it. Then the detector beeped again (we had false alarms all over the yard already – there is an old t.v. buried back there, for god’s sake) and Todd leaned down, and stood up in triumph. There it was, sitting right next to the Gardenia the whole time.
I almost cried, I almost hugged the stranger, Todd and I kissed. It was like movie for a moment.
When you have been married for five years, even the little things become meaningful. They may even become more meaningful than the big ones.
And here’s a big Thank You! to our Good Samaritan neighbor, the Eros of East Atlanta, the metal detector guy.