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The Only Thing You Can Count On

Wednesday, August 10th, 2011

So, the first thing you should know is that the Tooth Fairy is susceptible to strep throat, just like the rest of us. In fact, R’s Tooth Fairy seems to have come down with it at the same precise time that I did. Rollie lost another tooth on Monday night (after he went to bed, of course, prompting me to get up off the couch and deal with blood and teeth and find the damn tooth pillow while swallowing felt like eating glass). I warned him that there was a chance she wouldn’t know that night that he had lost a tooth, since it was so late, and that she might not show. Well, she didn’t show last night either.

Rollie’s Tooth Fairy sucks. Hopefully, she will get her shit together and make an appearance this evening.

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s discuss this whole back-to-school thing. Yes, my county in GA went back to school. On August 8th. Yes, that August 8th, the one that is a full month before I used to go to school back in the olden days.

R. started second grade. I am the parent of a second grader. When I say it, it sounds like I am talking about some person I don’t even know. Who let me be responsible for a 2nd grader? Shoot, I still can’t believe they let me and Todd walk out of Northside with, not one, but TWO of these creatures. We just got in the car and drove off with them! No certificate or license or anything!

And the Tills. . . the sweet baby girl, Tiller. Tills started Kindergarten on Monday.

The first day was rough. When I left her classroom the teacher was trying to get a handle on the new students and calling for a translator. Tiller was sitting at her desk alone, in tears. (I may have shed a tear or two myself.) Our school gained a ton of new students through redistricting, many whose parents don’t speak English. We gained so many students that they hadn’t even hired a new teacher for the new Kindergarten class Tiller is in, so she has a sub this week. (Rumor has it the new teacher, who lives in our neighborhood and is a friend, starts tomorrow.) Not the perfect start to the week, but the sub is a retired veteran K teacher, and by the second day, she had that ship righted and set on a course.

Rollie has a male homeroom teacher for the first time. I am interested to see how his mostly-male class responds to having a man teaching them. Already, he seems like he is very active in his teaching, which i think these wild boys need. They had math class outside the first day!

Another change this year? The kids are in aftercare. I decided that i was ready to go back to work full-time, or at least take on more hours contracting. (Wink wink, nudge nudge – shoot me an email if you have the hookup on a dream job you think might be a good fit for me. You know – flexible, interesting, challenging, and financially rewarding! Is that so much to ask?)

So, starting next week, I am going to be looking for more work in earnest. I have been spoiled and lucky to have great, near-constant teleworking experiences for the last eight years, but i am ready to add more work to my plate. I feel like this is a brand new chapter in my life. My babies are not babies anymore. I am not a “new mom.” Wrapping my head around this has been pretty wild. I didn’t realize how much of my life revolved around keeping two kids alive for six and eight years! But they don’t need me quite as much as they did even two years ago, and I know it. I need to find other things to put my energies into. I have taken the PTA newsletter off my plate this year.

I am still putting together the quarterly Evansdale Education Foundation newsletter, though, and serving on the organizing board. That has been a very rewarding experience. Have a bunch of money bags lying around? Please donate to the foundation here! (Or just look at the newsletter to see some of the awesome stuff we funded this year – a new EIP teacher for the school, and gifted certification and guided math training for teachers. We raised about $50,000 in our first year. Amazing, since it started out as about 15 people sitting around every Sunday night at someone’s house, trying to figure out how to sustain and improve quality of education at the elementary school.) Whoa. Digression.

So, I was worried that the day, with aftercare, would just be too much for my five-year-old girl. But Tiller LOVED her first day of school. I thought she would be happy to see me when I picked them up that first day, and she was. She came walking out of the cafeteria and saw me, cracked a big smile, exclaimed, “mama!” and ran full speed into my arms! And then I said for her to get her bag and she burst into tears and said she didn’t want to go yet. I am glad that she is going to like it there and that I won’t feel bad about them being there all day, but I would be lying if I said there wasn’t a little tiny piece of me that wishes that she was going to miss our lunches and errands as much as I will.

And of course, Rollie was all, “Mom! Why did you pick us up so early?!” (It was after five.) “I was playing dodgeball!”

I missed you, too, Buddy.

So, i think this is a big year for us, and will be a big adjustment. But I’m starting to see that most change is good, and even if it isn’t, I might as well embrace it, because it is really the only thing you can count on in this life.

Still, how can this:
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And this:
Bathing Beauty

Become this?

We will make you love us and then leave you, Mama.

We are going to make you love us and then leave you, Mama.

What Happens When the Candy is Taken Away

Sunday, April 24th, 2011

We’ll get to that at the end, but I thought I’d post some pics of the kiddos and family at the lake for Easter weekend.

He’s 77

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

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In dog years. I love that he sleeps pretty much all day, unless there is another dog around, or you utter the words, “treat,” “squirrel,” or “go.” I say, “wanna go pick up Tiller?” and he is up like a shot, arthritis be damned! Knocks the screen door open by himself and goes out to stand by the car. If i don’t come out fast enough, he trots around the car, as if making sure he doesn’t miss a door starting to open.

He climbs in, then gets in the passenger seat. Waits until i back out of the driveway, and finally turn out of the neighborhood on to the main road. Then he climbs up on that window sill and sticks his nose out like he was five years old again. He stays that way until I come to a light. Sits back down in the seat. Looks at traffic. After I turn? Back up in the window until I turn in at Tiller’s school. Then he waits until kids come out and then sticks the nose out again so all the kids can ooh and aaah over him.

I am so thankful for him; He is my best buddy.

Time Warp

Friday, March 18th, 2011

Tiller asked me whose hat this was, sitting on a shelf in my office.
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And I said, “Here. I’ll show you.”

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That hat always makes me smile.

Stone Mountain Sunday

Monday, January 31st, 2011

It was, like, 67 degrees in Atlanta yesterday. Beautiful weather, and reminds me why I love the South. Shorts in January! I have been working and volunteering a LOT. Like, so much that i am burned out, my psoriasis is spreading due to the stress, and i have finally started saying, “I can’t do that.” This is not a bad thing. I was thinking about it last night, and in addition to being a full time mom, i also work part time as an editor (from home and on my own hours, but still, it is a job.) And then there is the volunteering:

I write the PTA newsletter.
I am on the Communications committee for the Evansdale Education Foundation. (You should donate to them all of your money.)
I am a member of a group dealing with the proposed Dekalb County School redistricting and reconsolidation (that’s Dekalb’s fancy, non-threatening attempt at saying “school closing”) initiative, called Evansdale Elementary United.
I’m Board Secretary for my daughter’s dayschool.
I volunteer occasionally for other things, like to help in my son’s classroom.

This is entirely too much. I see that when I look at it written out like that. The sad part is that I am not alone. If your kid is going to a great school, it probably has as much to do with the teachers, staff, and funding as it does with the amount of work that a very small portion of the parents do in their free time.

So, i am learning to say no. When a meeting came up yesterday at the same time that I was supposed to go to Stone Mountain with my family, I said NO to the meeting. Big step, considering what a control freak I am. it was totally worth it, too. We had a great time.

And if you’ve never been to Stone Mountain, you are missing out. Sure, the carving is cheesy at best, offensive at worst, and definitely it is sad that someone carved into such a magnificent and unique natural Georgia feature. But the park itself has tons to do and is wonderfully family-friendly year round.

Tiller took this one of me, Todd, and Rollie. I don't know that we have a picture of just the three of us since he was about two years old!

Tiller took this one of me, Todd, and Rollie. I don't know that we have a picture of just the three of us since he was about two years old!

Rollie took this one. It is kind of nice that the kids are getting old enough where they can do stuff like that. I can't believe I didn't get a shot of just myself and Todd. Next time!

Rollie took this one. It is kind of nice that the kids are getting old enough where they can do stuff like that. I can't believe I didn't get a shot of just myself and Todd. Next time!

I wish I had a dollar for every photo of us with a surly Rollie. We would be very rich.

I wish I had a dollar for every photo of us with a surly Rollie. We would be very rich.

The kids like to go in this weird stone formation. It is right at the steepest part of the trail.

The kids like to go in this weird stone formation. It is right at the steepest part of the trail.

I am not comfortable in small spaces, so I sit out and look at the view. In the distance, you can see the trail going down the mountain, the parking lot at the trail head, and even farther, Downtown Atlanta.

I am not comfortable in small spaces, so I sit out and look at the view. In the distance, you can see the trail going down the mountain, the parking lot at the trail head, and even farther, Downtown Atlanta.

How Do You Achieve a Peaceful Holiday Season with Kids?

Wednesday, December 22nd, 2010

Am I the only one that thinks much of the Christmas season sucks ass now that I have kids? Sure, as long as I am stuffing them full of sugar and butter products, and when they are opening gifts, they are having a blast. The rest of the time? They are just whining about things they want, want, want.

Am I doing something wrong? We’ve given to multiple charities, donated toys to needy children, and our kids know about it and why we are doing it.

We don’t go crazy with gifts, and in fact, my kids get way less than most children I know.

I spend time with them, wrapping gifts, singing Christmas carols in the car (a once a year thing, really, as I force them to listen to decent music in the car all other times of the year – it is for their own good in the long run), making cookies, filling the birdfeeders together (birdies need yummy Christmas food too!), etc.

So what am I doing wrong? Is it just normal to feel like a failure as a parent this time of year? It never felt this stressful before kids. Am I asking too much of them, at 7 and 5 years of age, to understand how very and truly lucky they are to be born in this time, in this country, to well-educated and loving parents? (I know that it is not something they can really comprehend. It was, like, rhetorical and stuff.)

If you are able to have a peaceful season with your kids, please share with the class. Because i am feeling like a complete failure.

Thanks to Those Who Make Dogwood Girl Possible

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

I am thankful today, as every day, for the men and women who put their lives on the line every day so that I can live in this wonderful country, and write whatever I damn well please on this blog. They make it possible, and I will never forget it.

Thank you, Veterans. Thank you.

Do you know a veteran? Have a good story about a veteran? I would love to read it. Or if you have a veteran in your life that you just want to recognize, that would be cool too. Hit me up in the comments.

Here’s my story, even though he’s not a veteran: I talked to my Grandfather a lot about Pearl Harbor right after Sept. 11th. People kept on saying, “It’s the worst thing since Pearl Harbor.” I asked Pop if that was true. He said it was worse, because it was on TV, and you watched it in real time (“real time” are my words, not his). I asked what it was like for him right after Pearl Harbor. He said that in the days following the attack, all the young men he knew in Savannah all got together and rode to Atlanta to enlist. (I wish I had asked him why they went to Atlanta. Couldn’t they enlist down there?)

Part of the process was a thorough medical examination. They turned Pop down. They wouldn’t take him because he had a heart murmur, and because he was missing a toe due to snakebite. Seems like these would not really prevent a soldier from shooting a gun, but I am no expert. So, while Pop’s buddies enlisted, he had to go back to Savannah. I asked him how he felt about it. He said he was disappointed, but that he realized how “lucky” he was later, when people he knew were killed in action.

His story is interesting, though. There were so many people at home who did so much- He and Grandma both built warships in Savannah, called “Liberty Ships.” (If you are really a nerd, you can see which of 88 Liberty Ships were built at the Southeastern Shipbuilding Corporation in Savannah. Or just read the history of Savannah’s Liberty Ships here.)

They had a Victory Garden.

He later worked “on the base,” in Warner Robins until his retirement, and he traveled all over the world in a work capacity. Pretty interesting for the orphan from Coffee County.

And I will never forget that he went to Atlanta that day in 1941 to write that check for his country, even if it was not accepted.

What about you? Do you have a wartime story? I would love to hear it.

The Shiner

Wednesday, November 10th, 2010

For those who want to see my shiner, here you go. For those of you who are wondering how Todd managed to resist hitting me for this long, stuff it. I did it myself with a shovel.

It’s not too bad! Sadly, I’ve had worse. (Tried to find the photo of the Florida car wreck aftermath that was my face, to no avail.)

Here it is the day after I did it.
Day After

And this morning. (Very brave of me to put up a post-wakeup, puffy eyes, no makeup photo, no?)
And this morning

Uh . . . enjoy it, sickos.

Rambling Photo and Cemetery Family Post

Wednesday, November 3rd, 2010

Found this interesting photo of my grandmother Smith’s Uncle, Arthur St. Charles Dunstan, in the Auburn archives.
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He was a student at Auburn, when it was Alabama Polytechnic Institute (API), later became a professor of Engineering there, and then head of the Engineering department. There was a building there named after him, Dunstan Hall, for many years, but I believe they may have renamed it.

His brother, my great-grandfather, was John Harris Rowe Dunstan. He also attended Auburn. Arthur, and their mother, Medora Louis Hall Dunstan, are buried in Pine Hill Cemetery in Auburn. It still blows my mind that the after party for my wedding was walking distance from the cemetery where my dear Grandma’s own Grandmother, whose Civil War stories of Fredericksburg were handed down in the family, is buried, and I never knew it until years later. From Fredericksburg my line went, through Lee and Chatham county NC, to St. Tammany Parish, LA, and Chattanooga, TN to my parents having me in Atlanta, and me meeting a boy from Auburn, and ending up in that cemetery where my Grandmother’s grandmother is buried.

Think I might go visit old Medora in a couple weeks. See how she’s doing.

Halloween Recap 2010

Monday, November 1st, 2010

No time to give the details. Fun was had by all, despite Rollie and me feeling a little under the weather.

Hope everyone had a fun and safe Halloween!